Obituaries
Jay Richard Bouder, 78
March 20, 2021
Jay Richard Bouder, 78, of Lancaster, passed away peacefully Saturday March 20, 2021 after a courageous battle with cancer. Born May 16, 1942 in Lancaster, Jay was the son of the late Jacob and Shirley (Mathiot) Bouder. Jay married Phyllis Friedman Shulman in 1998 and went on to share many wonderful memories together.
For over 30 years, Jay owned and operated Bouder Mechanical Services, Inc. where his dedication and hard work helped create a reputable company known by many throughout the region. In his spare time, Jay enjoyed attending car shows all over the United States and was a member of the Potomac Ramblers. He was the proud owner of two AMX classic cars which he won various awards with through the years. His prized “No Deposit No Return” classic AMX gained notoriety at car shows he attended. Aside from his passion for classic AMX cars, Jay was fond of fine dining and the wonderful weather of Florida.
Above all else, Jay enjoyed spending time with his family. He will forever be remembered for his hardworking demeanor and gracious hand that was extended to all who knew him. He was kind and treated everyone as family. His presence will be greatly missed by all.
His memory will be cherished by his wife: Phyllis Bouder; two sons: Ryan Bouder husband of Jessica and Andy Bouder husband of Kelly; a daughter: Shari Graff wife of Kerry; a step-daughter: Michelle Soule; and five grandchildren. In addition to his parents, Jay was preceded in death by a son: Jayson Bouder.
Services for Jay are being held privately and at the convenience of the family. Memorial donations in Jay’s honor can be made to the American Cancer Society, 314 Good Dr, Lancaster, PA 17603 and / or the Water Street Mission, 210 S Prince St, Lancaster, PA 17603.
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Condolences to the Family
March 21, 2022
Once upon a time, long ago, we worked shoulder to shoulder in a SEWER HOLE, Called Frank G. Goodhart & Sons But Jay always kept the faith for somethin’ alot better! He found it but I never did! I Fixed a Harley Davidson Sportster For him after the kickstand went up through the crankcase and we got some hearty heart-felt laughs outta that together! I’m on my way, Brother!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
March 31, 2021
My condolences to the Bouder Family. Ralph Mathiot’s friend, Linda Alexander
March 28, 2021
Our condolences to the Bouder family, Jay will be greatly missed, but we will have fond memories to comfort us . Lorna. and. Ralph
March 26, 2021
Jay was a favorite customer of mine at Pep Boys. His visits were always enjoyable as it was fun to talk cars and do some “bench racing”. He will be missed.
Neil Cromwell
March 25, 2021
I knew Jay all of my adult life. I helped work on NO DEPOSIT NO RETURN. I am so sorry to hear of his passing. My condolences to his family. He will be missed!
Barbara Scheidt
March 24, 2021
Ryan & Andy,
Sorry for your loss. May all the good memories get you through this tough time.
Matt Stetter
March 23, 2021
My condolences to the Jay “Corky” Bouder family. Jay was a fun cousin. We had many happy times together as kids playing games. So sorry to read that he was ill, but has a wonderful family to survive him. I will miss him and am sad that i did not get to see him before he passed.
Margaret M Sturm (Skojec)
March 23, 2021
Phyllis and Family, We share your heavy hearts for the loss of Jay and his delightfulness. We will have fond memories of our shared love of cars conversations and enthusiasm. May you have peace knowing Jay is now free.
Fondly, Jeff & Kathy Heil, your backyard neighbor
March 23, 2021
Will always remember how kind hearted and generous Jay was. My deepest condolence to the family. Your legend will live on. Let me tell you a story RIP Jay
Dave Soule
